It makes me sad to think I’m the only CSer - or even the only Oncer - who genuinely likes Milah and feels terrible for what happened to her. So much so, I’d gladly heat up the sharp end of a poker and smack Rumple (that would be her KILLER, peeps, in case you’ve forgotten) upside the head with it.
Everyone constantly hits a wall concerning the child thing. No one thinks maybe she did what she thought was BEST for a young boy - leaving him with (at the time) a loving father. She couldn’t give her son what he most needed (love, her selflessness; she couldn’t pretend to be content for him, it was making her resentful and miserable and she had no one to turn to before Killian showed up). Everyone seems to forget the timeline as well. They all seem to think Milah immediately left, but clearly from the time she got royally pissed with her cowardly deserter of a husband (Bae being a baby in her arms) to when she actually had enough of asking him to rethink their situation and finding her own fun Bae was no longer a baby, so clearly she put up with her lot for a few more years before she took off. Just imagine six, seven or eight (however old Bae was when he told his father his mother was gone) years - YEARS - being with a man she had lost all respect for, a man she was starting to dislike, one she resented and felt trapped with, one she no longer loved, imagine that being you - could you hack it?
Plenty of women stay in miserable relationships because of their children - but how is that good for the children? I know that if my parents had divorced a long time a go I would’ve felt much happier; I often wished they could’ve afforded to get divorced as they were so bitter together, there were so many fights I grew up in and Bae was spared that. It ticks me off no one sees this side. They just look at the child and decide she’s selfish, heartless, a cold bitch who’s a shit mother and doesn’t deserve her son but deserved to be murdered instead. They don’t hear sorry from her own lips and they don’t hear her lover’s desperate lament to her son over how “not a single day went past when [his mother] didn’t regret leaving” him. How they “talked about going back” for him when he was older, that he and Bae were brought together “to make good on those plans. That [they] could live the life that Milah wanted for [them] … as a family.”
That’s not a cold hearted, completely selfish, cruel bitch. That’s a deeply troubled, unhappy, stifled, unheard, heartbroken woman who actually DID LOVE HER SON. Her only crime was longing for a different life and being unable to settle for less. It’s sad a child was caught in the middle, but her husband had his chances to try and save that union and he refused to lift a finger. When the fandom can FINALLY accept and agree he is partly responsible for the demise of his marriage, that he is JUST as guilty of abandoning their child and all the blame lies at his feet for permanently separating mother and son by HIS cold hearted and evil, cowardly, selfish act then a happy day that’ll be, and maybe more people will learn to understand Milah.